Ladies…the struggle is real! We all know a serial “complainer” in our world, or we may be one ourselves! I call them curmudgeons, those grumpy people who bring you down when you are around them!
Part of my pursuit for a better life and my ongoing personal growth journey was born out of incessant complaining. It became annoying to myself to the point that I just had to put a stop to it. No one is perfect and a complain here or there is totally normal, but when it starts at the beginning of every day and ends when you go to sleep, who wants to live like that?!
When your perspective shifts and you silence those negative, Debbie-Downer thoughts, something magical happens…things don’t seem so grim! This doesn’t apply to depression, I never want my readers to think I have a “get over it” kind of mentality. This is about those who are going through your life right now and are totally unsatisfied and choosing not to do anything about it. I used to be one of those people who when asked how I was doing, it would start into this whole big story of woe is me and how this or that happened to me, or this broke, etc. etc. I wasn’t fun to be around nor was I enjoying myself in life. I became aware of how I didn’t feel like myself and I knew I had to just stop the madness!
This quote is from a very insightful author and one of the most respected spiritual leaders of our generation, who wrote the book, The Power of Now (have you read this amazing book yet?!) I mean, it really is madness, living your life complaining about everything and everyone. Those things that are making you unhappy are sucking the life out of you, so what are you going to do about it?
Complaining is not a solution so here are few ways to help you get more positivity into your daily life;
- Positive Affirmations – I can feel some of you rolling your eyes at this one!!! I’m telling you though, this really does work! Start tomorrow when your feet hit the ground upon getting out of bed! Start your day and say aloud, “Today is going to be a great day!”
- Limit Social Media – All I can say is, “the grass is not always greener on the other side”, if you find yourself comparing yourself to other people and your time on social media is not interacting with the world and making you smile, but rather feeling bad that your life isn’t like so and so’s, then it’s time for a break.
- Limit Local and National News- need I say more? I mean daily news can really get people worried, anxious, and downright sad at the headlines and segments out there.
- Get Fresh Air- its Spring so there are no excuses! Go outside and get some fresh air and feel the sun on your skin. Sometimes when you are stressed and not happy with things in life, a little fresh air can change your perspective and get you out of a funk!
- Don’t Relive the Negative- venting is good and by no means does this post imply that we are all supposed to live in la la land. Be mindful though, that once you vent a frustration you let it go and aren’t voicing it over and over again. Again, this isn’t a solution and venting may not be what is actually going to improve the situation.
Become aware of your inner dialog and what you choose to contribute in conversation with others. Are you a “serial complainer”? Try these techniques and hopefully you will be back to living a life with a positive outlook!